“Breastfeeding is Supposed to Hurt” & Other Myths About Nursing

Breastfeeding is often described as “natural,” but that doesn’t mean it’s always easy. Unfortunately, many parents receive misleading advice that can cause unnecessary pain, stress, and guilt. One of the most common phrases new parents hear is, “Breastfeeding is supposed to hurt.” Let’s clear up that myth—and a few others—so nursing parents can feel more informed and supported.

Myth #1: “Breastfeeding is Supposed to Hurt”

This is one of the most harmful myths about nursing. While mild tenderness can occur in the first few days as your body adjusts, ongoing or severe pain is not normal. Pain is often a sign of an improper latch, positioning issues, tongue-tie, or other correctable problems. Breastfeeding should become comfortable once these issues are addressed. If pain persists, a lactation consultant or healthcare provider can help identify and fix the cause.

Myth #2: “If You Can’t Breastfeed Easily, You’re Doing It Wrong”

Breastfeeding is a learned skill for both parent and baby. Challenges are common, especially in the early weeks. Difficulties do not mean failure or lack of effort. Factors like anatomy, birth experiences, milk supply issues, and infant feeding challenges all play a role. Needing help is normal, and support can make a significant difference.

Myth #3: “Cracked or Bleeding Nipples Are Just Part of Nursing”

Cracked or bleeding nipples are not something parents should “push through.” These symptoms usually indicate latch or positioning problems. Ignoring them can lead to infections such as mastitis and make breastfeeding more difficult over time. Early intervention helps protect both comfort and milk supply.

Myth #4: “You Should Tough It Out for the Baby”

While breastfeeding has many benefits, your comfort and health matter too. Nursing should not come at the expense of severe pain, emotional distress, or physical harm. Whether that means adjusting technique, supplementing, pumping, or choosing a different feeding method, a healthy parent is essential to a healthy baby.

Myth #5: “Breastfeeding Comes Naturally to Everyone”

Some parents and babies take to breastfeeding quickly, but many do not, and that’s normal. Social media and cultural narratives can create unrealistic expectations. Breastfeeding success often depends on education, support, and flexibility, not instinct alone.

Breastfeeding is not supposed to be painful, isolating, or miserable. Myths like “just push through the pain” can prevent parents from seeking the help they deserve. With accurate information and compassionate support, nursing can become a comfortable and positive experience. And no matter how you feed your baby, you’re doing an important and loving job.

About the Author

Dr. Garcia-DeMartino obtained her dental degree from Fairleigh Dickinson University in 1987. After completing her residency at St. Joseph’s Hospital in Paterson, she started practicing general dentistry in New Jersey. In 2003, Dr. Garcia-DeMartino began training at the International World Clinical Laser Institute to learn how to treat lip- and tongue-ties. Today, she stays current in her field through memberships in the American Dental Association, the Academy of Children’s Dentistry, and the Academy of Laser Dentistry. If your little one needs treatment for a lip- or tongue-tie, you can trust our expertise! Schedule an appointment online or call (908) 840-8399.